Sunday, November 2, 2014

Making A Change


Today just feels like a good writing day.  So I guess I’ll just dive in and try to catch you up on what’s been going on the past few weeks.  It has been a lot.  I might be here a while writing.  Right now it is Sunday afternoon about 1pm. We have a show at 6, so hopefully I can get this done and sent out before then; we shall see. 

I think last time I wrote was on my birthday.  Let’s pick up from there.
We left the following day and headed toward Duluth, MN.  We had been home for ten days prior to leaving, so I had gotten used to sleeping in my own bed again.  I say that to say this: the first night of a tour is always the worst night’s sleep for me.  I just about get used to sleeping in my own bed for a couple nights, then we head back out and I’m in another shitty hotel bed again; with a different pillow too.  Every time we leave for another tour, I can’t sleep that first night.  I think I was up until past 5am, just tossing and turning and trying to force my brain to shut down.  I have that problem anyway: getting my brain to shut off at the end of the night.  It’s bad enough after a show trying to calm my body down enough to get to sleep; but there are also times when I can’t shut my brain down.  It’s worse when I have a lot of stuff that needs to be done the next day.  But the worst of all is that first night back on the road.  So there it is: if you’re looking at our schedule and see that we’re back on the road after being home for several days, you can just assume that if it is late night I’ll be up and pissed off that I can’t fall asleep.

So we made it up to Duluth and played the shows that weekend.  It was a fun club.  Friday night was packed and just an insane party.  I love those kind of nights; like I’ve said before, those are the easy nights.  A packed house is the easiest one for me to entertain. 
But anyway, we played there Friday and Saturday nights.  As we were loading out on Saturday night after the show two things happened that just made me want to shake my head.  Let me set up the first one here: the club is downtown with only street parking.  So as we loaded out, we just have our van pulled up on the curb out in front of the club.  At some point as I walked out with some of our gear to load it in the van, I noticed a guy standing in front of our van, urinating.  Remember, this is downtown and he’s standing in the street, just concealed by the front of our van.  Really??? He couldn’t find a better place to relieve himself?  It had to be right there in front of our van?  I would have loved for a police officer to drive by at that moment.  And at least he didn’t pee ON the van.  Then we would have been forced to do something about it.  It just makes you wonder what people are thinking though.  The door to the club was still open, he could have taken the five extra seconds to go back inside and find the men’s room.  But no, he had to whip it out right in front of our van instead.  Thanks pal. 

The second thing that happened at the end of the night I thought was even more ridiculous though.  As we got in the van after we loaded out to go back to the hotel, we noticed a guy walking down the sidewalk by himself.  I say walking, but what I mean is stumbling and barely able to stand up.  Yes, that messed up.  You know how it looks when a guy is swaying back and forth and it looks like they’re going to fall but never do?  It was just like that.  And then he would drop his cell phone.  Picking it up was the biggest chore for him.  It was actually kind of funny for a minute.  And then he stumbled out into the street and just stood in the middle of the road for a while.  We couldn’t in good faith just leave him standing in the street, so we tried to convince him to get back on the sidewalk.  None of us actually went over to help walk him back over though; I don’t think any of us wanted to get too close to him.  He eventually did finally get back onto the sidewalk and we were able to safely get on our way without running the extremely drunk guy over.  I guess my question is this: who let him get that messed up?  I would hope that he wasn’t continuing to be served drinks in that condition throughout the night.  I would like to think people are more responsible than that.  Maybe it was a combination of booze and drugs, who knows.  But then again, where are his friends who should be looking after him and not letting it get to that point?  It was just sad to see someone that messed up and all alone.  I hope he made it home safely that night and didn’t get run over.  Or more importantly, I hope he didn’t get behind the wheel and try to drive.  He wouldn’t have made it one block. 
Anyway, that was the end of our weekend in Duluth: a guy urinating in front of our van, and another guy so messed up he could barely stand. 

From there we went to Fargo for a show Sunday night at a club called the Windbreak.  I really enjoy this club, and we got some really good feedback from the management that night, so we are hoping to make that one of our regular stops as we traverse back and forth across the country in the future.  After that night we had a few days off before our next show.  I was both nervous and excited about the next show though, because it involved something I hardly ever get to do anymore: play an acoustic set. 

That show was in Proctor, MN.  I used to do acoustic shows a lot more often early in my career, and at the time felt very comfortable on stage by myself.  But after touring for the past several years and being on stage only in the company of a full band, I find myself intimidated when I am on stage alone with just a guitar.  In some aspects it is really fun for me and I have the opportunity to play a lot of music I normally do not get to play otherwise.  On the flip side of that, I am so used to having my guys on stage with me that it is nerve racking to be up there by myself.  It can be very lonely when all the lights and everyone’s eyes are on you and there is no one else on stage to help take some of that focus.  It also leaves me feeling very exposed; both as a singer and guitar player.  With mine being the only instrument on stage, it is up to me to make it sound good.  And let me be pretty honest here, I’m not a very good guitar player.  With other musicians on stage, I can hide that fact and make up for it with being more of a showman.  But when it is just me and my guitar, all those flaws and shortcomings come to the forefront.  There’s no hiding poor guitar playing when I’m the only one playing an instrument.  That makes me very self-conscious.  But for all the insecurities I have about being up there by myself, it is still fun to just be on stage singing and playing.  And like I said, it is always fun to get to play songs I don’t normally get to do.  Being an Indiana boy, it is nice to be able to throw in some old John Cougar every once in a while.  I think I even played a Pearl Jam song that night (who you know from reading past entries is my favorite band).  I also was able to try out a new song I had written on that crowd.  It seemed to go over pretty well, so maybe it will end up on the next album.  Overall it was a fun experience, and I hope to start to get to play some acoustic shows a little more often. 
You know, if I’m being completely open and honest here, which I always try to be when writing, the one disappointing thing for me was that the rest of the band didn’t come out and watch the acoustic show and support what I was doing.  I get it, they wanted to just relax at the hotel before the show and all that, but it would have been nice to have them there too. 

After my two hour acoustic show, we then had a three hour show as a full band.  So total for the night was five hours of stage time for me; which turned out to not be so bad.  But then, at the end of our show, the crowd there was still dancing and partying and not ready to leave, so the manager asked if we’d keep playing for an extra hour.  By this point I was exhausted (both physically and vocally), but was feeling good enough and getting a great vibe from the crowd, so I was open to the idea.  Except that we also had an 11 hour drive to the next night’s show.  So because I had already been on stage for 5 hours, and we had such a long drive the next day and had to get up so early, we decided not to play extra that night.  That is the first time I’ve ever refused to keep playing when asked.  We could have kept going, and part of me wanted to.  But it was just too much with such a long drive the next day.  Sometimes sleep has to be factored in as well so we can put on our best show the next night too.  As much as I like to live in the moment like that, I also have to think about the shows ahead of us and the crowds in those towns too.  It wouldn’t have been fair to the two more shows we had coming up the next couple days to burn ourselves out that night and not get enough sleep before such a long day of traveling.  I hated that I said no to performing for another hour.  I hope the manager understood why we wouldn’t do it.  But more importantly I hope the audience understood why we couldn’t.    

On Saturday night we found ourselves in a similar situation: the crowd was still there and having a great time and the owner of the club asked us to keep playing.  The difference this time was that we didn’t have another show to be at the next day.  This time we had a 24 hour drive home the next day.  But, I just couldn’t refuse to play more music two nights in the same week, so we agreed to play an extra 45 minutes at the show on Saturday night.  It hurt pretty badly the next morning when we woke up early to head home, but it was worth it to make both the owner and the audience happy.  I’m glad we all wanted to play extra that night.  That night was also our last show with Steve as our drummer, so I guess now is the time to discuss that.  I have received tons of emails and questions about what happened, et cetera, so I’ll use this forum and do my best to explain. 

Let me start by saying this: I like Steve a lot.  He added some great things to our band.  He is an incredible singer, a great drummer, and has more road and main stage experience than most people.  When he joined our band a year and a half ago, he instantly made us a better band.  We were tighter on stage, and our vocal ability went through the roof with both he and Kevin backing me up.  All that being said, we had some internal issues that couldn’t be resolved any other way, so in the end we had to make the difficult decision to let Steve go.  We didn’t want to; like I said, he was definitely a huge asset to this band.  Ultimately, there comes a time when you have to do what you feel is right for the music, the fans, and this band overall.  Those are the reasons: we had to make a choice for what we ultimately felt was the best solution for us as a group; for our fan base who have been (and continue to be) so loyal and supportive of what we’re trying to do; and for the music.  So that is what we felt was the best for all those things. 
Steve is great.  He will thrive in whatever he does.  We already have plans to work with him in some other capacities as we all move forward. 
And while I choose not to discuss the specifics of our reasons or decisions regarding Steve, I hope that as a fan base you are confident that I will always do whatever I feel is right to put out the best product that I can; to always do what’s best for our music and our followers. 

Having said all that, it is time to formally introduce the newest member of the band, Mike Carson from Indianapolis, IN.  I’ve already dubbed him ‘Other Mike’ so we don’t get confused with two Mikes in the band; but I don’t think he likes that name very much.  I’ll work on it, but right now it is just fun for me to call him that.  Mike actually reminds me somewhat of Josh (at least in the respect of when he first joined the band): he has a lot of experience playing locally and regionally around Indiana, but has never been in a full on touring band situation like this before.  He has a lot of excitement about what we’re doing and is full of anticipation to get acclimated into the band and life on the road.  He also has an overwhelming passion for music, and the desire to be successful.  All of these remind me so much of Josh’s first few weeks in the band.  Also, for such short notice, Mike came into the band very prepared.  He worked hard to make sure he was comfortable with the songs we were playing, and has even learned some of our original material as well (which you know makes me very happy).  Btw, so far he says he likes ‘Rowdy’ and ‘Show a Little Skin’ the best out of our collection.  For live shows, I agree with him.  Anyway, after we get all the bugs worked out and get comfortable playing together, I think Mike will be a great addition to our group.  He already brings this palpable energy to the stage by the way he plays drums that I know our fans will notice at the shows. 
So for all of you out there, when we come to your town again soon, I hope that you will come up and introduce yourself to him and welcome into the MDB family.  I also hope that you’ll agree that we made the right choice in hiring him. 

 
              (MIKE CARSON)

By the way, it is tough and nerve racking to come into a band like this on such short notice; but then to have your first show on Halloween too, where we are expected to dress up on stage had to be even worse.  Mike handled it like a champ though and played along.  I don’t like dressing up for Halloween; it is just not my thing.  We all did this year though, and I really appreciated that he was a good sport about it since it was his first every show with us.  

(HALLOWEEN COSTUMES)

Quick side note that I want to share: last night there were some people at our show who have been coming to see us play for the past 5 years whenever we’re around.  We aren’t in the area often, but whenever we are they show up without fail.  Here’s the cool thing and what I want to share: I didn’t email them or send any kind of message to let them know we were playing here this weekend; they told me they knew because they follow our schedule.  After all this time, they still continue to look at our schedule to see when we’ll be close enough for them to make a show.  For me that is really special.  They have so much fun at our shows that they seek us out and stay on top of our schedule to know when we’re going to be close enough.  That really makes me feel like we’re at least on the right path with what we’re trying to do with this band and the music.  As long as we can continue to gain fans like that that get excited for us to be back in town, then I know we’ll eventually get to where we are trying to go with this thing.   

A few more things and then I’ll wrap this up. 
First: we have new T-shirts available at our shows now.  We have added a different color to our ‘logo’ unisex shirts, and have also added a female cut ‘logo’ shirt to replace the ‘Rowdy’ shirts that we recently discontinued.  Make sure you pick up a new T-shirt at the next show!

 

 

Second: at the end of the last ‘journal entry’ I discussed an old song that a fan had asked me about called “Somewhere North Of Tennessee”.  I went back and actually found the recording of it, as well as some other songs I had recorded several years ago before we started touring.  I think I’ll put a few of them on I-TUNES soon so that you all have access to some of my older music as well.  I was listening to them this morning, and was surprised by how much I still enjoyed listening to some of those early songs of mine.  So stay tuned, and in a few weeks I’ll put one up on I-TUNES and see what you all think about it.  If we get enough downloads from the first one, maybe the next month I’ll add a second and third song as well.  Since it is my earlier writing, it will be interesting for you to see how my song writing has evolved from then until now.  I can already say this: back then I was writing much more personal material; I did not think so much about the commercial aspect of my music back then.  So anyway, look for that coming up in a few weeks. 

I guess that’s about it for me for this entry.  Like always, here is my self-promotion:

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That’s all for now.  I hope to see you at a show soon.  Be safe out there.

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